As a Single Mum, I understand the limitations and challenges that are unique to parenting solo and a sense of compassion and empathy informs my life coaching work for single mums.
With much gratitude, I receive a lot of emails from women who share their stories of heartbreak, fear, depression and feelings of worthlessness as they go through a divorce or find themselves embarking on single motherhood for a variety of reasons. The early months and years of single parenting are so daunting and terrifying that it’s amazing we don’t spontaneously combust. Having ‘snapped’ into a state of complete insanity during that period of divorce madness myself, I totally understand where my clients are coming from.
The entire experience of marriage and divorce was a full blown attack on my dignity, humanity and sense of justice. I was still pregnant when I was going through my divorce and at the same time, my Mother’s cancer re-appeared after 10 years. As I had too much going on in my life, I was lucky enough not to have to worry about becoming a Single Mum as I was quite looking forward to it.
I accepted the new opportunity of single motherhood and constructed a new plan for my life. There is a solution to every problem. Always. Sometimes we just have to make a choice – a non-negotiable choice to take charge of ourselves and map out a new plan. Creating a non-negotiable schedule where we include therapy, workouts and finding community resources to assist where necessary with job searches, housing and financial assistance are critical in moving on.
The problem is that there is so much residual hurt from heartbreak and fear of raising a child alone that we get diverted from the work we really need to be doing for ourselves. It’s that emotional baggage that keeps us from developing a new life plan. As a Mum, I am the biggest advocate for my daughter.
There is nothing that I wouldn’t do to ensure that she has the opportunities to reach her potential and be treated with dignity and respect in all areas of her life. I just had to take that same fighting spirit and fight for my life!
Being a single parent can be daunting and frustrating, and can have major effects on their confidence and other aspects in life. As a single parent, it’s easy to fall into a rut of just ‘maintaining’ when they’re overwhelmed by responsibility.
Either way, they have a lot to deal with it. Perhaps their life isn’t quite as they imagined it. Or perhaps they’re having trouble figuring out how to be a parent and still make space for their own dreams, rest, and creativity. Single parents experience even more pressure to hold everything together than their partnered counterparts, and are particularly susceptible to burnout and the negative impacts of isolation and overwhelm.
My heart goes out to every person that I am so blessed to hear from via my coaching practice I want to tell every one of you how amazing you are. How strong you are. How wherever you are in your phase of divorce, motherhood and/or womanhood, you are being given the greatest gift of your life with whatever pain that you are facing.
This pain is an opportunity. It is a physical embodiment to precipitate positive changes and opportunity to free yourself once and for all from everything in the past that was wrong and demeaned your beautiful spirit.
As a single parent you are probably overwhelmed and often wonder if you are succeeding as a parent. Some days you may struggle just to get a grip on the ball of emotions you are experiencing. I can help you be intentional in your parenting, stay focused, and apply principles to help you be the best “solo” parent you can be. It’s a road I’ve already traveled, so let me take you on a tour.
Creating success in your life as a single Mum might seem like a big task, but I help my life coaching clients do all this and more every day! Need some guidance in this work? Schedule your free initial Single Parent Coaching consultation today. We’ll chart the processes you need to tune into that still, small voice of your values and intuition, and approach change with purpose, patience, persistence and intention. Let’s explore how you can have what you want and live with more ease, freedom, joy and meaningful connection to those around you.